Posted by: Rael Kalley | October 9, 2010

62. I am such a …

But wait, there’s more

Last week we talked about the ubiquitousness of labels.

They’re everywhere.

We discussed how much our lives are influenced by labels and how the labels we hang on others contribute mightily to the way we interact with them and the way in which we interpret their behaviour.

And I shared with you one of the most powerful, and best kept secrets of our times.

I taught you the secret that millions have spent their lives trying to discover – the magical way by which you can transform anyone into exactly what you want them to be.

Simply label them with what you want, stand back and watch magic in action.

They will instantly transform into whatever that label means to you.

Every time.

If you don’t believe me, take a moment to investigate one of the label types we didn’t address last week.

Those very labels we have placed on ourselves.

And so proudly wear on every conceivable occasion.

You know the one’s I mean.

The one’s we seek every opportunity to confirm.

The one’s we remind ourselves of daily – as if we would ever give ourselves a chance to forget them.

Because these labels define us, they remind us constantly of who we are.

And keep us in our place.

And they are always there when we need them.

Especially on those rare occasions when we do something that is less than perfect.

They instantly help make our mistakes more palatable by reminding us that we should not be surprised or disappointed by our performance.

After all, we just simply met the expectations set out by our own labels.

And many of us have many of them.

Like these;

Fool.

Stupid.

Loser.

Not good enough.

Never do anything right.

Never succeed at anything.

Ugly.

Failure.

Pathetic.

Waste of skin.

This list is by no means complete. Please feel free to add your own favourites right here.

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As you can see these labels are very important to us. They keep us focussed on who we really are.

So it is very important that we protect them at all costs.

And make sure they are always kept in a safe place.

Their security is vital to our continued well being.

Imagine if the unthinkable happened.

And we lost them.

Our lives would be turned upside down.

We wouldn’t know what to think of ourselves.

And we would be placing ourselves in grave danger.

Of not being self critical at all times.

And we would stop beating ourselves up.

And second guessing everything we do.

And expecting the worst.

And meeting or exceeding that expectation.

And we might even begin to think differently of ourselves.

And start applying new labels.

Like intelligent.

.And engaging.

And attractive.

And charming.

And funny.

And confident.

And if we do that we start to run the risk of living up to those labels.

And viewing ourselves in a whole new light.

And seeing tomorrow’s possibilities in what had always been yesterday’s wishful thinking.

And we might start believing in our own abilities.

And delivering on all the promises of our new labels.

And unleashing our incredible, new found potential.

And experiencing lives of happiness, fulfillment and joy.

All made possible by a simple fact.

That no matter what the label says.

We will always live up to its expectations.

So, whatever you do, hold on to those old labels that have served you so well.

Protect them at all costs.

Lest this happen to you.

And then what will you do?

Till we read again.

 

I need your help.

I recently read a record has been set with the sale of 80 million copies copies of Dan Brown’s book, The Da Vinci Code.  I intend to break that record and urgently need to sell 79, 999 992 copies of my book “Life Sinks or Soars – the choice is yours.” If you click here to buy my book you will forevermore be able to brag that you played a role in a history setting event.

It just doesn’t get any better than that.

 


Responses

  1. The trick here would be to find a way to truly belive those lablels. Great idea, I just dont know how it would work.

  2. I love it! For me, journaling has helped to see self-defeating “labels” for what they are … just little codes that we stamp upon our foreheads and keep seeing in the mirror of our minds. The more we engage the new “labels,” the easier it gets. Rael, I just bought your book today at Self Connection Books and am enjoying it immensely! So … hey … everybody … buy his book, “Life Sinks or Soars – the choice is yours.”


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